To me, child abuse does not only mean the wrong use of or ill-treating of a child like the dictionary defines it but it also means the teaching of bad behavioural patterns to a child through the bad examples you exhibit. When a child is not thought the right conduct of living and he grows up acting contrary to the rules of the land and the rules of God, such a child has been abused. His right to good training and good living as an honest citizen has been abused. Such a child never finds contentment and happiness.
Whenever a child’s right is being
abused, the child is invariably being abused. Its everyone’s duty to see that
this right of the child is not abused. A child like they say is for everyone…
like this song they sing when a new baby is born “He that hears the cry of a baby
should come, he that hears the cry of a baby should come quickly, it’s not only
one person that owns a child”. A child is for everyone, it is only for
the parents when while it’s still in the womb, but as soon as the child is been
delivered, it’s for everyone.
Some people think that once a
child is not theirs, they do not have a responsibility towards the child. That is
very wrong. An adult has the right to correct any child that is not behaving as
he ought to anywhere. The correction one makes to a child now can be the child’s
saving grace in life and can a well be one’s saving grace in the future. I hate
it when I see here parents fight over an adult that corrected there child doing
wrong with a cane, saying no one should help them in training of their child, that they can do that themselves.
Anyway in this present generation
you cannot trust anyone with your child because the so called male adult
claiming to correct a girl child may have a very bad intention towards the
child, as adults now molest children in secondary school age even primary
school age. One time in Enugu very close to my area a young boy of 28yeqrs was
stripped naked and beaten mercilessly by his street people.
Do you know what he did? This guy
has a neighbour whose child just came back from the dormitory; the small girl
was in JSS1 and just came back for second term break. This useless adult she
calls uncle is so close to her family, the guy stays in there house most times
and would jokingly refer to her as my wife which everyone saw as nothing. On this
faithful day, it was a Monday morning when everyone has left the house for their
different activities. This guy living next door knowing everyone has gone out
entered the house and started raping the small girl, I don’t know if the small
girl was really scramming but the little girl eldest brother who is also a
friend to the rapist guy suddenly rushed home to collect his second mobile
phone he forgot at home. Having his own spare key to the house, he did not
knock but just opened the door and saw his friend on top of his little lovely
sister stack naked.
The brother wasted no time but
took the rapist friend cloth closed the door and raised alarm, other street
boys rushing to know what was happening saw the rapist guy naked with blood on
the cushion where he was raping the little girl who was in pains. They dragged him
out on the street stack naked and gave him the beating of his life, after they
have paraded him round the street naked, they handed him over to the police.
Parents, especially
mothers should start teaching their little daughters what they should know as
soon as they are 3yrs of age. I could remember hearing my sister tell her little
daughters kamsiyochukwu who is 3yrs old and success who is 5years old...”if
anybody touch your bombom at school or anywhere if you come home you tell
mummy, am your friend so if such thing happen tell mom immediately because if
you don’t tell mommy you know your satan friend and no more Jesus friend”.
She would also say… “do you still want to remain mommy and Jesus friend? They would shout
yes!! She would give them a hi-five and a hug”. My sister was able to
achieve this because her daughters see her as a mother and a friend, but that
does not mean she does not scold them when they do something wrong? But she
does that with love.
While being so conscious
of the male adults do not however be ignorant of the female adults. Most female
adults molest and abuse girl children by engaging them into lesbianism. Teach
them also if any aunty touches them in there bom bom they should also tell
mommy too.
You and your husband as
the parents should also not abuse your children. Mother please and please stop taking
your bath with your son. Once a boy is 2years please do not take him to bath
with you. You may still be thinking he is still a kid but this is how they
spoil. The brain of a child stores negative things more than the positive
things. That is why you wonder where they learn most of the bad things they do.
Father please do not
undress in the presence of your little daughter, once she is up to 2yrs ask her
to go to the children’s room whenever you want to undress. You may think she is
just a kid but let me tell you this. My uncle, who was meant to take her kids
to school on a Friday morning didn’t come back on time from the place he went
to very early in the morning. So he called me to help him take his kids to
school, by the time he called me it was already late so I rushed to school. Getting
to their school their fellow students were already done with the morning
assembly and was already in class. In one of the classes in the nursery section
I saw a little girl kneeling down with tears, being the type that love children
and hate to see them cry. I went to the class and was try to plead with the
teacher to pardon her for my sake she now told me what she did.
Do you know what she
did? I was told by her class teacher that she was reported by her class friend
whom she told… “my dad’s thing is very big”. We talking about nursery kid here
ooo not primary ooo. Have you seen the embarrassment and the shame she brought
to her parents, how would you feel if you’re called by your daughter’s school
that she said a thing like that?
Parents please be
mindful of what you do in the presence of your kids, do not kiss your husband in
front of your kids. Do not fight and exchange vulgar words in the presence of
your kids, if you’re having issues wait till they leave for school or lesson
before you fight or do whatever you wish. Parents please select the kind of
movie your children watch. I could remember how a movie I once watched as a kid
that almost influenced my morals “problem child, naughty Jef and these aki n
paw paw nollywood movie”. Please parents
if it’s possible regulate the kind of things they watch by installing a
television and dvd in their room and then buy nursery rhymes and educative
movies for them.
Do not ever think you
can watch any movie with them, when a kissing or sex scene appears you send
them an automatic message to go get water for you or to get something for you. Children
are very smart, it will get to a point they will want to know that thing that
happen in the part of the movie that require them getting water for daddy. I could
rememeber one little girl then that told his father… “Daddy why is it if this people
want to kiss in the televisition you will tell me to go and get water for you?”….. Have
you seen?. Some parents don’t even ask them to leave, they will keep thinking
in their mind, what does she know, she is just 2yrs.
Mother you have to be
very observant of your daughter, when your daughter starts avoiding an uncle
she used to be fund of, ask her questions and watch her closely. When a lively
daughter suddenly starts becoming withdrawn, you need to ask her question. And please
so not allow any adult refer to your little daughter as my wife, because men
can be very wicked and deceptive. When they see she has grown they tend to use
that opportunity of my wife and molest them. Never bring a male house help to
take care of your daughters, female house helps molest kids ooo, but it’s more
on the male side.
And lastly, parents
please take out time to discuss deeply with your children, no matter how hectic
your job may be. Before she gets to the puberty stage you may have to teach her
what she should know, what she should expect to see at a period of time. If you
allow another person teach your child what you should have thought her, they
may teach her wrongly.
Please share this with a
friend and safe the future of the children out there…
Source: aminformed.blogspot.com
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