TIWA, YOU ARE ON THE WRONG TRACK!

Afikpo Chic On Tiwa Savage's Response To Her Hubby's Meltdown.

Dear Tiwa, you have no idea that you have just indicted yourself and in a way proved your husband, Teebillz AKA Tunji Balogun, right in so many ways. Yes he said a lot terrible things about you during his meltdown a few days ago.

But that does not mean you must strip the father of your child down and let the whole world know every negative thing there is to know about him. What you did is completely worse than what he did. You should know better. Do you know that this man is more than just your husband, he is the father of your child. While trying to expose him to make yourself look unscathed, to make yourself look good, you are damaging your own son and yourself.

Some of the things you said about this man was cringe inducing. You have just beautifully stripped the father of your child very naked for the world to see and there is no covering up because it is on video. Had you posted it on social media or granted just an interview, you could have claimed hackers or misquote, but now, see how you have permanently humiliated yourself and your son in your zeal to out-humiliate the father of your son.

Hear Tiwa: "Since my son has been born, TJ has not spent one naira. I paid for the hospital bills, I paid for his flight to come to London, I paid for the apartment we stayed for two months, the clothes, the nursery, the grocery. Even when we were in London we didn’t just go shopping for my son, we shopped for TJ as well so that when we come back to Nigeria he’ll have new things because his excuse most times is, ‘I don’t have money, I don’t have money…’"

Tiwa, this is too bad and shameful of you. So you have no idea that telling the whole world that the father of your son has not spent a naira on your son is a shame onto you and your son, not so much on the one one you want shamed? Shameful on you, my dear.

 What are you trying to prove? How does this info you are sharing improve your life or anything else? No one needs to to know this info, my dear, no one.

You see, I am a mother of a son, just like you, no matter what his father does, if anyone asks me about him,

 I will always say he is simply the best dad on this earth. You owe it to your self, your son, to always say that especially in public. You are not doing that for him but to yourself and your son. If he does not buy for our son, I will do the buying, that should be the least of your worries. You should encourage him to buy for him, but if does not happen, my friend you move and do the ones wey gree do. That you had that child successfully is more important than who buys what.

Another one you are telling us you took him shopping, so damn friggin what? And so? Is he not your darling? What is new about that? I can even take strangers shopping and spend thousands of dollars on them, much less my son's father, my darling or my beloved. Come on now, this is just so tacky, so damn what if you buy him even the air he breeds.

You said you love him and wants him to be okay,if you are stripping him naked for the world to see all his shame, can you still claim you love him and want him to be fine? You admit he was suicidal, rather than have a bit of sympathy you are adding salt to injury. Do you know that if this man seats down and watches this video that if indeed he is suicidal, he might actually carry it out. Hope you are ready to congratulate yourself.

And here you are telling the whole world he can't buy you things because he always claims he has no money, he has no money, and that he lives above his means. Tiwa, this is too much information. This man is human, he has peers, he wants respect just like every human, do you plan to shred his dignity to pieces? Is that how far you must go to justify yourself to us all because he made some remarks/accusations against during a suicidal meltdown, which he even deleted, meaning he realized he should not have done it.

Like it or not, this man is the father of your child. You must bear and carry your cross concerning him. You should never had gone as far as you did to discredit this man and make him look so idiotic, useless, stupid and free-loading. All you have done is make your own son look like a son of a loser, yes oooo. Oh you don't know that huh?? Okay who is the loser now?

Moreover, Igbo adage said,  madu abuo adighi ayi ara at the same time. 2 people should not be mad at the same time.

Tiwa, let me tell you this, once you bring a child to this world, it is not longer about you. Simple as ABC. You can no longer do whatever you like because you feel like it.

On the video expose, you complained that he keeps telling you and everyone else that he made you who you are. For a person like me that is always looking to give credit to others it will be a dream come true for me.

Tiwa, you have the talent, no matter who claims he made him, it does not take away anything from you. If I were you, I will agree with him anytime he says it and will also let the world know yes, it is true, he made me who I am. Remember, people are not stupid, we know who has the talent, we know that it is you, and that you are maintaining it, so what is your issue with this claim? It takes nothing, nada away from you at all, at all.

It is not something you should be out there denying or complaining about at all. I personally would have made a positive of it by beating my chest with pride and saying YES, the father of my son, made me, my hubby made me. It would not take a damn thing away from me.

Interviewer: "Is it possible that you do everything for him but still don’t respect him as a husband?"

Tiwa Savage: "That’s a lie! I’m not going to sit here and lie to you that every time I come home I cook… and I’m not going to make excuses and say it’s because of my career that’s why I’m busy. I’m the same person that works and puts money in the house, I’m the same person that works long hours to make sure we have a roof over our heads."

Tiwa, you do not have respect for this man, it is very very obvious. If you are like me and not able to cook for any man, it is understandable, but what I cannot support you on is to be out there with pride, telling us you are the one that brings the money to the table. And work long hours. DUHHHHHHHH. We know that, but you must not say it. You must not. It was not necessary.

I hope you understand that you are diminishing this man, almost making him look useless. This is the father to your child remember. Ok good. You married this man, you once pined for him, loved him, so he cannot be all useless. This man, remember the priceless good times  you have shared with him. Okay good. Why, Tiwa? Remember, nothing is all bad, nothing is all good.

Tiwa: "TJ loves to keep up with the life, he wants to live a life that’s not true without a steady income. He went to buy a car that he knew he couldn’t afford, and I ended up paying the balance of about N3M"

TMI-Too much info. Are you happy in the manner you are stripping the dignity of the man who fathered your child? I hope you are happy. Was the above necessary?

"...and he says I took away his manhood because he doesn’t want people to know am the breadwinner." Tiwa

And yes he is right. From all you have displayed he is very very right. You have been stripping him of his manhood going by what you have used your on mouth to say in this matter.

When you went ahead to pay for his dept, you did it just to save your name, rather than doing it for the right reasons which is to do the right thing and to come to the rescue of your family, which is him, you and your son.

 From the interview you granted, you must have been treating him so in a manner that makes him feel like less of a man, and in turn, he amplified his callous behavior towards you. I am not defending his bad behaviors but we have to be realistic.

Men do not need reasons to be callous to a woman, but we ladies must tread a thin line in response. Especially when a child is involved. It is a lose-lose situation for the woman to respond in kind, or go overboard the way Tiwa has.

"Tunji, you know I tried everything," Tiwa

Have you tried respecting him?

"Or should we talk about the fact that I walked in on him taking cocaine in my house when we were still leaving in 1004 then" -Tiwa

No, Tiwa, we should not. No one asked you.

A man is a man is a man. Men have their ego that comes in built. Please do not try and completely strip your man of his respect and dignity the the whole world, no matter the situation.

And I cannot shout this enough to all and sundry, in any conflict, leave a window, leave a window, leave a window, for reconsiliation. Going all scourced earth fore-closes so much.

My fellow ladies, you might not understand.

 I know most of you have been supporting Tiwa, hailing her and calling his hubby a loser. But look beyond all that. Tiwa is not suppose to respond in the manner she did. We know what we know about our men, does not mean we have to strip the man naked for the world to see. You see this is not just about the husband, this is about the father of his child, herself, and the son. It is his Tiwa's best interest to protect him, treat him with dignity even in storm, and do.

Same goes to the women who are always quick to point out they picked a their men from the gutter and made him, I bought him this and that, I did this and that for him, rather than stay on topic. Biko there is nothing more disgusting and low than this. If your man wrongs you, stick with the topic at hand, and stop with what you have done and not done for you. It completely invalidates whatever the heaven you have even done for him in the first place. Stop reducing men to nothing with such statements.

Finally, Tiwa, you know that little boy you love even more than yourself? That boy that is the best thing that happened you? The man you are exposing negatively to the world is the father, there by making his father the best thing that also happened to you too. Retrace yourself please. Had there been no child between you too, I would not even have penned this article.

This is what you should have done when the situation came about; you should simply denied the allegations your husband leveled against you during a suicidal meltdown. Then you state further and simply tell the public that, that your privacy should be respected at this period while you work things out with your husband. Simple. Then you go ahead and do what you must do what is right for the situation, if it means leaving him, you leave. Simple as ABC.

You did not need to go scourged earth and kitchen sink against your husband. It was not necessary at all. Remember, even if you leave him, he remains the father of your child, treat him with compassion, treat him with respect, and encourage him to be better, for his dignity, for your dignity and the dignity of your child.

Yours Sincerely,
Maria Ude Nwachi (Afikpo Chic).
#BCEL - Best Chic Ever Liveth.